As a child growing up I can say everything I learned, I learned from my mother. She use to always tell me, "society doesn't owe you anything and whatever you want to be it's up to you to strive for it and be the best that you could possible be." I do believe that children learn from parents, family, environment, t.v. and literature. But as a parent it's up to you to educate them on life. When I was between the ages of 10-12 we lived in Long Beach Califronia and at that time they started bussing minotities to all white schools. I didn't know what to expect but I did feel said because,I was leaving my friends and neighborhood to go too a school that I knew nothing about. At that time my best friend was mixed black and white and as children we don't discriminate, to us we were children just playing together and having fun.
Well I went to this school and it was about eight minority students. Four African American students, two Spanish children and maybe one or two Asian children and at that time I wanted to be friend everyone but majority of the white students didn't want to be our friends. White children would come up to me and ask me the dumbest questions like, why is your skin so dark? Do you guys take baths? Or why is your hair so nappy? White children at that school would go as far invite the whole class to their birthday party and not ask me. Keep in mind I am the only black student in the classroom. I felt so long and miserable most of the time and I felt as if they where ganging up on me, but I tried not to let that get to me because my best friend would be their by my side into she was told to chose to pick what side she wanted to be on because she also was tired of being single out because she was my friend.
Well my best friend chose to hang with the white students and she started calling me names, and she wouldn't sit by me. I was so hurt and angry that I did the only thing I could think of was to lash out at everyone who tried to hurt me. I actually bacame a bully and I would beat up anyone who would say nasty remark to me, or if they wouldn't let me play at recess with them, I would take the ball and hold it into the bell rung and I dared anyone of them to come and take the ball. Well one of my teachers caught on what was going on and she recommended for me to go too counciling at school to be able to control my anger and she would talk to me atleast three times a week and inorder for me to control my anger she came up with an incentive. If I wouldn't fight, or lash out at the other students by the end of the week I would recieve stickers that would go towards my party at the end of the month. Well that worked because she gave me the option of inviting who I wanted to attend my party, of course I invited the student's who where having a hard time adjusting to the school and If it wasn't for that council and my mother preaching to me that those children don't know any better, they are being taught that from the people who are closest to them and the whole world isn't like that. Those two people in my life at that time showed me the right way to be and without them, I don't know where I would be right today because of the anger and hatred I had in my heart towards white people.
Today, I must say I am a stronger women because of my mother and the values that she bestowed in me. to love and respect all people beliefs, heritage, race, and culture.
This subject is very touching to me especially as a child growing up in an area were racism was still going on and during my research, I looked at Eastern Europe area Dublin Ireland where right to day racism is still going on. over their the school system is ran by Roman Catholics and if you are not of Irish descendant minorities have a hard time getting into schools being that majority of blacks over their are Muslim, members Evangelical, Protestant Denominations, or no religion. The government let the school discriminate on the basis of religion and according to the Catholics and their solution is to open up all black schools for black children to attend. I see from my readings that racism is still strong and going strong in certain parts of the world. If only they knew of the harm they are creating, instead of making this world a place for everyone to live in harmony and being to have the same opportunities as anyone else.
P.S. As you read my blogger, I hope I have not affend anyone and if I have please except my appology. I am just speaking from my heart, retelling stories that happend in my life.
Source:
Rachael, September 3, (2010). Xenophobia and Racism Affect Black School Children in Ireland
www.rachelstavern.com/.../xenophobia...racism-in-ireland-affect-black-school-children.html